Gender War Social Media Posts Are Weird

Posturing online about how marriage is pointless and women don’t behave like they used to, must be getting dudes some pussy. Otherwise why do they post this stuff? I can’t for the life of me figure it out. Are they actively trying to chase away potential partners they claim to be looking for? There is no way these unicorn women see these posts and turn into captain save a bro. 

I see all kinds of posts online from both genders on all kinds of weirdo gender war stuff. To me there isn’t much of a war, unlike men, women appear to actually be good with getting money and saying no to sex. Men are wildly insecure as their perceived value, based on traditional masculinity of yesteryear diminishes. People then congregate online and echo chamber themselves into a frenzy. 

There is a giant cultural shift happening. From my perception, it’s based on the fact that women finally have some money and power at a cultural level.

There are some real concerning stats out there

Men are definitely killing themselves at higher rates. We are not taught to process our emotions and now the decks are pretty stacked against us. This isn’t some woe is me pity play, I mean most people are getting poorer over time. Since men are largely judged based on their ability to provide, this has a whole lot of dudes left with some real self-esteem issues.

Our entire lives we’ve been taught that financial security will help us get partners. Then life got weird while the rich got richer and the rest of us adapted to hustle culture. In the midst of this women fought real hard to get paid the same as men. 

My understanding is that in Quebec, on paper at least, middle management and lower ranking employees more or less get paid the same across gender lines. There’s still a whole lot of systemic barriers, but Quebec went hard auditing every single company to make sure women got paid the same. Since upper management comes with being friends with your superiors women still face barriers. 

Now people don’t like to date below their education level. Apparently it’s called assortative dating. This is a problem for women, who have been out graduating men at university for decades at a rate of 4 to 3. This leads to a dating pool where men who can keep up with educated women get locked down fast. Since education breeds snobbery towards blue collar and other endeavours that are less, smart per se, this has left a lot of women feeling like there are no good men left.

Now there are good men out there, but they maybe don’t read books and come off smart enough, so they are overlooked. My entire dating strategy is based on grammar and remembering things.

University culture definitely isn’t helping

I dropped out of Concordia in my first year. I was in honours psychology and my entire life fell apart. So I dropped out and never went back to school, formally (I did complete two Concordia classes as an adult). My life went a different route. Since I’ve been 21, my entire social sphere has been linked to work or music. Like many men, these “streets” raised me.

The university crowd is real different. While I worked among many of them, I culturally never fit in with them. I was always in the corner with the other artists that companies need. In my case I ended up holding proper university degree roles, but without the behavioural training that comes via university culture.The reason you need that degree is because it shows you know how to behave white collar. Now we all see glimpses of the culture on campuses these days. The people who go to school are being trained to think radically differently than the people who hustle their way into a career. Since people want to date people who make them feel comfortable, it creates a divide between university educated folk and the people who did not adopt the cultural norms school teaches you.

As you recall, for a long while, our education system has been pumping out more educated women than men. This has got to be impacting our dating cycle. If the trend continues there are going to be more financially solvent, educated women who can’t find men, and hard working frustrated dudes who can't find a partner. 

Loneliness is on the rise, a fast Google can confirm that for you. Social media definitely plays its part. There does appear to be a gender war brewing on social media. I think it’s horny people trying to Hail Mary some love.

The internet is not helping despite it helping me

I’ve been habitually in relationships since I was 18 years old. While I have met most of my girlfriends online, I am also comfortable meeting people in person. The internet is full of a lot of articles about women expressing how they feel about things.While most men rah rahhed about manspreading and other preposterous sensationalism, I learned about how men didn’t help with chores or listen to their women. I sat at the lunch table and noticed that across cultures women had the same complaints about men. And a lot of the time those complaints were super valid.

This taught me to be a more empathetic partner and ensure that I do my fair share of chores. I pay attention when women tell me stuff. I joke around the fastest way to get a woman into you is to remember some shit she said an hour ago. I kid, but try it. If she’s feeling you, you just locked some shit in.

What I see online is a bunch of weirdo posts about gender issues from single people. Like posting about how marriage rates prove marriage is pointless (that’s a super narrow perspective like life is a zero-sum game). Then you see a bunch of people in the comments going off. These posts generate a ton of traction. Single people have a lot of time on their hands. They aren’t listening to their partner in real life. 

The thing is, people in relationships stay the fuck out of it. People see thousands of comments and feel there’s this big old gender war. It’s not real. It’s just a bunch of lonely people on social media. The truth is, a lot of people are actually out there finding partners and developing happy things.

There are a lot of unfortunate podcasts and other media that prey on the vulnerability of the lonely. This gender war is a manifestation of sexism fuelling capitalism. 

You’re supposed to peacock to attract your mate

This last section is to the dudes. Most of you that I know, are not doing it like the old timey dudes who’s lifestyle you claim to want, did it. You do not have money like that. In fact, it’s a lot more affordable to partner up with someone who makes approximately what you make and pool resources. 

Now doing this kind of partnering is kind of like running a business. Since you can’t provide like the old days, you maybe need to take into account she is out there hustling like you. She’s going to partly play that old timey man’s role, because statistically at least half of you probably need a roommate. 

If you want love and sex and all that, be better. Stop whining and acting like it doesn’t exist. 

Now that I drive Uber I can assure you plenty of people got love and respect in their lives. I see it in the way they interact. To achieve this, you need to respect that she is actually hustling as hard as you are. This is also the first time in history we’ve been in this position. The old school cultural norms don’t make no sense in an era where no one can afford a house. 

Most dudes I know who put that extra effort into charming their woman, get laid and love life. The ones who take their women for granted (which according to the socials is far too many of y’all) are miserable.All that to say this blog amounts to two key points. 

1. Stop speaking for all of us. You keep generalizing men as a monolith and it’s corny. Some of us can get women and don’t have to worry about being cheated on. Y’all are honestly embarrassing us and we get stereotyped because of your insecure asses.

2. How in the fuck is whining about how you can’t get women going to help you get women? For real? Project excellence and keep your personal life off of the Book. I know how far too many of y’all feel and again, it’s often embarrassing stuff. A gentleman never tells, remember? If you project that nonsense, you are just going to get low frequency partner candidates. 

Either way, you won’t see me out there whining about how romantic partners don’t like me. Have a lovely day.

Live Long and Prosper Everyone